Have a New Year’s Resolution? Make that a 100% Commitment

One reason I love what I teach and research is because many of the lessons are applicable not just to business but to life in general. During this time of the year, we often read and think about resolutions for the New Year. Here is a bit of advice to those of us who want to stick to our New Year’s resolutions: choose just a few things that really matter and make a 100% commitment; not 90% or 95%, but really 100% commitment.

This advice comes from a case I taught in my service operations course last semester about Bugs Burger Bug Killers (BBBK), a pest extermination company. While all other companies in their industry promised to reduce pests, BBBK promised to eliminate them and gave a 100% service guarantee to boot. They said “if we don’t satisfy you 100%, we don’t take your money.” How much were their customers (hotels and restaurants) willing to pay for a 100% guarantee? A lot! BBBK charged ten times more than their competitors and made a ton of money.

What is beautiful about this guarantee is that it was BBBK’s 100% commitment to it that allowed it to provide it while still being very profitable. The lessons from BBBK are easily applicable to other businesses. When companies make a 100% commitment to their values or principles, they are more likely to be successful in achieving them for at least two reasons: 1- 100% commitment prevents them from giving in to short-term pressures and make exceptions. 2- 100% commitment forces them to make operational decisions or innovations they wouldn’t have made otherwise.

Let me describe these reasons using the following example from life. Say that one of the problems in your life is that you work too much and that you don’t spend enough time with your family. You know that this is bad for your and your family’s long-term happiness. So, during the next year you decide that you will dedicate your weekends to spend time with your family.

1- What do you do when there is an important project that is due Monday and by Friday evening you find out that you are way behind? Would you make an exception just this one time and work that weekend? I bet that without a 100% commitment, most of us would make this exception and many other exceptions like this and have short-term wins, like a project well delivered. But in the end, we will end up working most weekends again and lose in the long-term. We will probably regret all the time lost with our children.

If we are tempted to give in to short-term pressures in the context of our families, imagine how easy it would be to give in to them in the context of business. Unless certain values/principles are practiced 100% of the time, people may be tempted to make exceptions. They may make bad or unethical decisions, especially if they work for companies that are constantly under short-term performance pressures.

Making a 100% commitment to certain values or principles eliminates these exceptions and saves us from making decisions that hurt us in the long term.

2- When we know that we will spend all weekends with our family, our “work time” will be constrained. As a result, we will be forced to find ways to be more productive during the five days we spend at work. We will probably eliminate much of the time we waste surfing the web or hanging out in our colleagues’ offices and make lots of other decisions that make us more productive. We may become so productive that we may end up doing better both professionally and personally.

This again applies so well to companies. In retail, for example, there are some companies that commit to offering good jobs to their employees. They pay higher salaries and offer more benefits than their competitors. Having higher labor costs forces these companies to innovate in ways they wouldn’t have innovated otherwise. As I explain in my recent HBR article, these retailers end up making operational decisions that are very different than their competitors. And in the end, they perform much better than their competitors.

So that’s my two cents for New Year’s resolutions. Make a commitment and stick to it 100%.

Happy New Year!

How Operations Management Enables Dignity and Excellence

A couple months ago I was asked to give a speech to Boston area high school students in Harvard College’s Youth Leadership Program.  The timing worked for me so I said yes.  But as the date got closer I started worrying.  This was a leadership program and I was supposed to be inspirational.  But preparing a general leadership speech didn’t sound right given that I don’t teach or study leadership.  Then I came across a speech that Martin Luther King Jr. made to students at a high school in Philadelphia in 1967.  In his speech, King encouraged students to think about their life’s blueprint and said:

Number one in your life's blueprint, should be a deep belief in your own dignity, your worth and your own somebodiness. Don't allow anybody to make you feel that you're nobody. Always feel that you count. Always feel that you have worth, and always feel that your life has ultimate significance.

Secondly, in your life's blueprint you must have as the basic principle the determination to achieve excellence in your various fields of endeavor. You're going to be deciding as the days, as the years unfold what you will do in life — what your life's work will be. Set out to do it well.

King added:

If it falls your lot to be a street sweeper, sweep streets like Michelangelo painted pictures, sweep streets like Beethoven composed music, sweep streets like Leontyne Price sings before the Metropolitan Opera. Sweep streets like Shakespeare wrote poetry. Sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will have to pause and say: Here lived a great street sweeper who swept his job well. If you can't be a pine at the top of the hill, be a shrub in the valley. But be the best little shrub on the side of the hill.

After reading King’s speech, I knew what I wanted to communicate to my young audience.  Through examples from different supply chains, I would help them discover the importance of each and every job, from cleaning classrooms to designing computers to sewing zippers on shorts to stocking merchandise at supermarkets.  Every job matters!  And as King argues, in every job people can achieve dignity and excellence. 

I just wish there were more of these jobs. Unfortunately, many companies do not provide jobs where people can feel good about what they do, find meaning, and strive for excellence.  Let me give an example from retail, an industry that employs close to a fifth of the US workforce.  In this industry, most companies choose to offer bad jobs. I want to emphasize the word “choose” here because my research shows that offering good or bad jobs is not a necessary outcome of being in this particular industry or competing on the basis of lowest prices.  

So how bad are retail jobs?  Let’s start with wages.  According to Bureau of Labor Statistics the mean annual wage for a cashier working 40 hours in 2010 was $19,810, less than half of mean annual wage of all occupations.  And working 40 hours a week is not a guarantee even for full-time employees because 94% of retailers consider anyone working more than 30 hours a full-timer.  Obviously, the situation is worse for part-timers. 

With these wages it is not surprising that retail employees get disproportionately more public assistance than employees in other industries.  Here by the way are some depressing data about food stamps.

Beyond low wages, retailers are notorious for providing unstable work schedules.  Think about a job where your work schedule changes dramatically from one week to the next and you only learn about your schedule one week in advance.  How is that for managing the rest of your life, especially if you have children and depend on a second job to get by? 

Low wages, unstable schedules, along with very limited training and little opportunity for advancement are not what I would include in a recipe for dignity and excellence.  And lack of dignity and excellence certainly shows when we shop at these stores. We as customers are used to problems like misplaced products, disorganized shelves, obsolete products lingering on the shelves, dirty stores, and poor customer service.

The excuse retailers often make for lack of investment in labor is that this is the only way to provide the lowest prices.  So if retailers offer jobs that allow for dignity and excellence customers will have to pay higher prices.  I find this presumed trade-off between low prices and investment in employees a wrong one if retailers make the right operating decisions.  I’ve studied highly successful retailers ranging from convenience stores to supermarkets to wholesale clubs that not only offer the lowest prices and make a lot of money, but they ensure that their employees have good jobs.  And their secret sauce is operations!  These retailers consistently make operating decisions that are good for employees, customers, and investors all at the same time.     

So there you have it.  Operations management enables what Martin Luther King preaches.  We don’t have to study leadership to inspire high school students or managers; we can easily do that through studying operations management.

My Last Class at HBS

When I first started teaching at HBS I found the last class of the semester to be the most difficult.  While many of my colleagues shared their life lessons or communicated big, important messages, I felt I didn’t have much to offer my students. So I used the last class to wrap-up the important concepts we had learned throughout the semester. 

But after my first two years, I started wanting to do more.  So, as I did before almost every class, I knocked on the door of my great colleague Kent Bowen and asked for his advice.  And as he always did, Kent started asking questions. Why did I want to do something different? What did I want to communicate?  Why?  And at the end of our meeting, Kent gave me a case about the life of Jai Jaikumar.

After reading the case, I knew exactly why Kent shared it with me.  The case described how Jai was saved by a shepherd woman after a tragic accident while climbing the Himalayas.  And it provided an opportunity to communicate something I truly believe in: luck plays a big role in our success and success brings an obligation to serve others.  Since 2008, I have been teaching this case on my last class.  And thanks to Kent, the last class has become one of my favorite classes.

I just taught the Jai Jaikumar case in my supply chain elective course. But this was not just the last class of the semester but also my last class at HBS.  This summer, I am joining the Sloan School of Management at MIT.  I am thrilled to have the opportunity to work with world-class researchers in my field, teach Sloan students, and have time to write my book.

But I will miss the HBS classroom.  Teaching at HBS was an incredibly rewarding experience for me.  During the first years, my objective was simply surviving in the classroom.  I can’t tell you how many bad dreams I had in which I did not know the material or I was not able to control the 90 bright students.  I had nightmares about chaos in the classroom with students dancing, yelling, and walking in and out. Surviving in the classroom was a lot more difficult than I had predicted. Luckily, I had a great set of students and colleagues like Jan Hammond and Roy Shapiro who helped me get better everyday.

I still have nightmares, especially in the beginning of the semester, about teaching.  But my objective is no longer surviving in the classroom.  Rather, it is sharing with my students my research, and most recently, my point of view on business and life.  As I started connecting my teaching with my research, I began seeing my students as collaborators with my research.  They challenged my ideas, offered alternate explanations, and asked great questions that forced me to think deeper about issues I was studying.  I am grateful for all that they taught me.

As I started sharing my point of view with students, I began having big hopes.  I hope that my students will be more likely to start or join companies with strong values and priorities and make operating decisions that are good not just for profits, but also for employees and customers.  I hope that my students will be less likely to give into the temptation (or pressure) to make short-term decisions at the expense of their employees and keep focusing on the long-term.  I hope that my students will define their success not just by how much money they make, but how they made the world a better place by their presence.

It was an absolute privilege to take part in the development of leaders who will make a positive difference in the world.  Thank you HBS for the opportunity!  And thank you my students this term who made my last class one I will never forget.  

Using Clutter to Improve Sales: The Wrong Choice

New York Times had a recent piece about how retailers like Dollar General, JC Penney, Old Navy and Wal-Mart are increasing clutter to improve sales.  So to get their customers to buy more, these retailers are adding more inventory and more variety to their stores, according to the article.  I think this is a really bad way to increase sales.

Yes, these companies will see a short-term increase in their same store sales.  You give customers more choices, stuff the store with inventory, and they will buy more.  And yes, Wall Street will probably love this.  The increase in same store sales growth will make the analysts think that these retailers are actually doing something right.  But of course, the analysts will miss that since this sales increase comes solely from more inventory or variety increase, it cannot be sustained.  This is just a one-time increase in sales.  You cannot keep on adding more and more inventory to the store.

More importantly, this is a bad long-term decision. It does not benefit employees because their operating environment has now been made more complicated.  It will not benefit store operations because employees will be less productive and make more errors when their stores are cluttered.    It surely does not benefit the environment because this will increase waste from obsolete inventory. And it probably doesn’t even benefit the customer.  Store clutter leads to customer confusion.  Some customers even responded on the New York Times article’s comment section saying they regretted buying stuff they didn’t need.

Here is an idea. How about offering fewer but better products and investing in employees so they are knowledgeable about these products and they can educate their customers about the value they are receiving?   This is exactly what retailers like Trader Joe’s, Mercadona of Spain, and Costco are doing.   And you want to know how they compare to their competitors in terms of sales?  Not too bad! Trader Joe’s sales per square foot is more than double the supermarket average.  Mercadona’s is more than 50% higher than that of their largest competitor, Carrefour.  Costco’s is more than 30% higher than that of Sam’s Club. 

Today, I also learned about another retailer that has the same strategy: Patagonia.  I met the Director of Advanced Research and Development at Patagonia at a panel I was moderating at HBS Retail and Luxury Goods Conference.   When someone asked a question about how Patagonia responded to the economic crisis, he mentioned that they did so by cutting their product variety in half.  In half!  It took them 18 months to do so, but their customers loved it, their employees loved it, and their performance showed it.  Of course, one reason Patagonia was able to do this was because they had invested in their store employees so that their employees could intelligently talk to the customers about the products they carry.   

The panelist also mentioned that Patagonia’s salespeople are taught to encourage customers to only buy things that they need—not waste resources on stuff they don’t need.  Why would they do this?  Because this is aligned with their mission: Build the best product, cause no unnecessary harm and use business to inspire and implement solutions to the environmental crisis.  Kudos to Patagonia!

Tenure and Women: A Structural Problem

Last week, many of my students forwarded me the New York Times article about female professors at MIT.  The article pointed out how difficult it is for women to get tenure—judging from how comparatively few do—and pointed out what universities such as MIT are doing to counteract the bias against women. 

My response to all this?  Yes, there is compelling evidence that there is bias against women and it’s great that universities are acknowledging it.  But for those women who choose to have families, there is an additional structural problem with the tenure system in academia, which I believe is more to blame than bias.  Unless universities address this structural problem, things will not improve for women seeking tenure (nor for students seeking tenured women professors and advisors). 

At most universities or professional schools, the tenure clock is seven to ten years.  During this period, you have to establish that you are the leading scholar in your field. “Leading scholar” has different meanings at different schools.  Some schools care most about the number of publications in good journals. Some care most about one big idea that pulls all your work together.  Achieving either of these in a race with time is a lot of work.  You might wonder how quality of teaching affects getting tenure.  Unfortunately, at most universities and professional schools, teaching (good or bad) has no impact on getting tenure. 

Once you get tenure, the race with time is over or at least the pressure is gone and you have job security for the rest of your life with rare exceptions.  Let’s just think about this system for a moment.  Which business academic or consultant would ever recommend to a high performance company that they should give their employees job security for the rest of their lives—not to mention considerable power over the careers of others—based only on what they did in their twenties and thirties? Not many, I imagine.  But of course, this is a completely different topic and others have already discussed the pros and cons of the tenure system  (See Steven Levitt’s blog).

OK. Back to the structural problem.  For many women, the time they are on the tenure clock (the seven to ten years, often starting in their late 20s or early 30s) is exactly the time when they are starting a family and are most needed at home. Obviously, if their spouse is the primary care giver for their children, they can spend their days and nights working diligently on their tenure case while their spouse worries about diapers, doctor’s appointments, and homework.  But if their spouse is not the primary care giver, and for most of my women colleagues this tends to be the case, then they face a choice: either they step into the role of being the primary care giver and limit the time spent on their tenure case, or they hire third parties to take care of their children.  (This problem probably exists in other high-performance careers, but I am focusing on the one I really know.)

Of course, there are exceptionally talented women who can handle all the domestic activities, put in correspondingly fewer hours on their academic work, and still out-research and out-publish their peers.  But they are rare. 

Most of us are more likely to lose out one way or the other.  I know many women who are tenured or on the way to getting tenured who deeply regret being unavailable during their children’s formative years.  They know they will never make up for all the time they took away from their children.  I also know of many women who chose to spend time with their children and did not get tenure. 

Whose problem is this? Is this choice forced on women by the biological facts of life? I don’t think so.  Rather, I think it’s a bad system that can and should be fixed.   

The sad part of this problem is that our children are young for so short a time.  My own mother constantly reminds me that our children are lent to us for at most 18 years so we should make the most of it.  Careers, on the other hand are very long.

                                                                                                    

So how should universities think about this structural problem?  As the New York Times article mentioned, most respond by adding one extra year to the tenure clock when you have a baby.  But is one year enough?  Why not two years or five years?

If a person can produce tenure-worthy work in her forties or fifties, say, why should she already have been thrown off the tenure track? Conversely, if it is deemed unlikely that anyone could produce tenure-worthy work in her forties or fifties, what are we expecting from all those faculty who were given tenure in their twenties or thirties? Wouldn’t that have been just the time to assume they were washed up and fire them? What are the societal implications of highly educated women opting out of the workplace to care for their children, or conversely, outsourcing parental responsibilities to pursue careers that won’t wait for them?

I would love to hear from others on this. 

Product Variety and Mugs at Disneyland

There have been so many things to write about the last few weeks but so little time to do it.  I moderated a panel on work-life balance a couple weeks ago at HBS and I hope to write about it during the next few weeks.  But now, while it’s fresh on my mind, I want to write about high levels of product variety.

On February 23rd, the Wall Street Journal reported about proliferation of toothpaste SKUs.  According to the article, in January 2011, there were 352 distinct types or sizes of toothpaste at retail stores.  When one examines the functions, flavors, and sizes, there could actually be more than 2,000 combinations of toothpaste!  The functions include whitening, plaque prevention, gingivitis prevention, cavity protection, tartar control, long-lasting fresh breath, and baking soda & peroxide.  The flavors include brisk mint, frosty mint, cool mint, crisp mint, “cinnamint”, vanilla, watermelon, and bubble gum.  Toothpaste comes in gel or paste and there are multiple sizes.  So maybe 352 is not that bad after all.   

But 352 is utterly confusing to consumers.  How on earth are we supposed to know exactly what we need when there are so many choices?  And the costs of this confusion are well documented in the marketing literature.  But as an operations professor, what worries me the most is all the waste associated with high product variety.  Clearly there are manufacturing costs associated with high product variety.  But there are also inventory related costs.  While it is easy to forecast consumption of toothpaste, it’s really hard to do so at the item level when there are hundreds of different types.  The difficulty of forecasting translates into poor management of inventory.  And there are costs at the store level (I wrote an academic paper on this topic).  High product variety drives store employees crazy because it complicates their operating environment.

On a lighter note, I was at Disneyland with my family this weekend and I ran into a situation at a store that struck me.  My kids are really into Lego so our trip included spending time at a Lego store.  While my kids were amazed by the huge creations at the store, including a giraffe that took more than 250,00 pieces of legos to create, I kept staring at the section that displayed hundreds of different mugs differentiated by names.  Here is a photo of a small section:

Yes, maybe some people are excited to walk out of the store with a mug that shows their name.  But with the proliferation of names in a multicultural world, how many of the customers will actually be frustrated that their name is not in there?  Speaking of my family, none of our four names were available.  Maybe we are just a weird family, but I imagine there are many families that visit Disneyland that will encounter similar disappointment. 

I have no idea how much a machine that does on-demand printing would cost, but the operations junkie in me kept thinking that there must be a better way to manage this situation.  

Questions About Parenting

I have two children and I teach at Harvard Business School.  If you ask me which of these two things is more challenging—raising children or teaching at HBS, my answer would be pretty clear.  To me, raising children is far more challenging. And teaching definitely did not come easily to me. Ask my first group of students from 2002 and I’m sure they’ll remember all the struggles I had as a first-time teacher.  But what made teaching less stressful was the expectation that it was okay to make a lot of mistakes as a rookie.

In parenting, it is hard to move beyond being a rookie (unless you have many, many children).  I won’t get to experiment with multiple five-year olds before figuring out how to best manage a five-year old.  Plus, each child is so different. This is why I love learning from others’ parenting experiences.  I read with great interest Yale professor Amy Chuo’s parenting experience as outlined in the WSJ article “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior.” Apparently, this article generated the largest number of online responses from WSJ readers, ever.  Chuo writes: 

“A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math whizzes and music prodigies, what it's like inside the family, and whether they could do it too. Well, I can tell them, because I've done it. Here are some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do:

-        attend a sleepover,

-        have a playdate,

-        be in a school play,

-        complain about not being in a school play,

-        watch TV or play computer games,

-        choose their own extracurricular activities,

-        get any grade less than an A,

-        not be the #1 student in every subject except gym and drama,

-        play any instrument other than the piano or violin,

-        not play the piano or violin."

She goes on to describe the cultural differences between Chinese and Western parenting and offers lots of examples from her family.  As I read Chuo’s article and the follow-up articles that appeared in WSJ and NY Times, I kept thinking about my parenting style and realized how many questions with which I struggle all the time. Here are just a couple:

1-     What is my objective as a parent?

I feel that optimizing my children’s happiness should not be my objective.  My objective should be to help shape their character.  There are certain traits that I would love my children to have such as kindness, generosity, responsibility, hard work, curiosity, and honesty. But shaping their character, or at least trying to shape their character at this age is not always fun; I often find myself trading off my children’s short-term happiness with discomfort and stress.  As a working mom, who doesn’t get to spend all her time with her children, I sometimes wonder what I am giving up as a result of my choice.

2-     How high should my expectations be?

I would never want to take away the gift of high expectations from my children.  I would love for them to excel at what they do. But how do I make sure that I don’t put too much pressure on them? And when setting expectations, how much weight should I give to the outcome, such as getting all A’s, or on the process, such as working X number of hours a night.

3-     How much should I shape my children’s interests? 

On the one hand, I would love for my children to pursue what is exciting to them.  I know that if they find something about which they are passionate, they will put more work into it and will be more likely to be good at it.  This will improve their confidence and probably make them happy. But on the other hand, I feel that my husband and I might have a better idea of what our children can be really good at.

Perhaps this is because of my own experience.  I used to love basketball as a kid.  I watched my father play and then coach basketball and I absolutely loved the game.  So at the age of 10, when my father insisted that I play volleyball instead of basketball, I was heartbroken.  According to my father, volleyball would be better for me.  While I didn’t like his choice at first, I started loving volleyball after I became good at it.  Should I follow my father’s parenting style?

4-     How busy should my children be?

A lot of kids nowadays start participating in extracurricular activities and taking private lessons at young ages, even as toddlers.  And they are always busy going from this activity to that activity. My boys are 3.5 and 5 years old.  The younger one goes to daycare all day long and the older one goes to pre-K. When they are not at school, my boys just hang out.  During the weekdays, the four of us spend a lot of time at the dinner table (frequently with other guests) and reading books. During the weekends we run errands together, talk, play silly games, let them watch some TV and yes my husband and I go crazy watching them fight or call each other names.  I am sure things will change as they get older and activities will have to be added to our calendar.  But am I doing the right thing right now?  Am I taking away opportunities from my kids?

What is the purpose of a firm?

In today’s FT, Sebastian Mallaby wrote about conflicts of interest in the context of investment banking, especially the conflict between investment banks’ own trading and the trading of their clients.  He argues that one way to solve conflicts of interest in this industry is to break banks into functional units.  Many of Mallaby’s insights are probably not surprising to people who pay attention to investment banking.  But as someone whose primary interest is not investment banking, this article made me think about conflicts of interest and potential trade-offs in other industries and more importantly about what the primary objective of a firm should be. 

For too long companies and business academics have focused on narrowly defined objectives. In my field of operations, for example, we often use profit maximization as the objective for operational decisions.  My colleagues in other fields use shareholder value maximization as the sole objective.  But should these always come before the interests of customers, employees, the society, and the environment?  Should companies invest in their customers, employees, environment, or society only when doing so increases profits or shareholder value?  Where has that thinking taken us during the last few decades?

Some of the companies I admire, like Costco and Mercadona of Spain, do not have profit or shareholder maximization as their objective.  They put customers, employees, suppliers, and society ahead of profits and believe that by doing so they will create more value in the long term. A retailer I am working with right now states that its purpose is “to provide employees opportunities for growth and success.”  This purpose is way more important than maximizing profits (ironically, this retailer makes A LOT more money than their competitors).

I have always believed that well-run companies that emphasize the interests of customers, employees, suppliers, and society are exactly the types of companies the world needs more of.  But I am just a boring operations gal who is trained to solve small operational problems, not to provide answers to big questions like “what should be the purpose of a firm?”  But in the last issue of Harvard Business Review, Michael Porter and Mark Kramer have a wonderful piece on what they believe the purpose of a firm should be.  They argue that the purpose of a firm should be to “create economic value in a way that also creates value for society by addressing its needs and challenges.”  They urge companies to reconnect company success with social progress and start creating shared value.  What a breath of fresh air!  

Kids and iPhones

Here we are on a flight from Miami to Boston and the only thing that keeps my children quiet is the iPhone. My five-year old has my husband’s phone and is playing ASTRONUT, an obscure game his dad downloaded for him.  My three and a half-year old has my phone and is watching a movie.  And I am wondering, where did we go wrong?  Why do our children love this device so much?

My husband and I are pretty strict when it comes to TV or computer game usage. We have only one TV at home and have a rule about not turning it on on weekdays.  We don’t give our children our iPhones at home and I’m pretty sure we won’t get them a computer until it’s necessary for school.  We play with our children all the time and try to stimulate them as much as possible.  Yet, that little phone is by far their favorite source of entertainment.  They would rather sit with an iPhone for two hours than play a game with us.

My little one, in particular, is obsessed with the iPhone.  He literally stops random people and asks them if they have an iPhone.  Yesterday, we were having lunch at a café.  A woman at a near table was talking on the phone.  After she finished her conversation he asked her “Is that your iPhone?”  When she said yes, he asked if he could play with it.  He gave such a cute smile that she couldn’t say “No, you can’t.”  Two minutes later, he was sitting on her lap and they were going through her photos and her movies until he discovered that she had Angry Birds.  When my older one heard Angry Birds, he joined them and all three started playing together.  They were talking and laughing and the older one was having a great time explaining what the birds were doing to his new friend.  She said she was having a great time and that she was fascinated that a 33-year old and a three-year old liked playing the same game.

I confess that my husband and I enjoyed the fifteen minutes of quiet time to finish our food.  I also like the fact that my children can interact with others so easily.  But I wish that the interaction was not around an iPhone. 

When we were kids our grandparents lived away from us and our dad coached basketball.  So we would regularly take long bus trips.  During those trips, my brother and I would talk to strangers for hours.  We would tell them about our family, what we liked, and why we were taking that particular trip.  We would talk about sports (especially basketball) and other random things. My brother was great at telling jokes, so he would often tell them his favorite jokes.  I liked singing so I would sing even though I did not have a great voice (at the time I thought I did).  People in the bus would clap and I would be happy.  

Our parents never worried about what they would do to entertain us during those long trips. As long as there were other people around, they knew we would be fine.  But now, before a long trip, I pack books, coloring books, games and of course still end up with the iPhone!

Is this the symptom of a bigger problem?  Are today’s kids (and adults) less able to connect with others?